This is a more personal post than usual – but some of my submissives, slaves and sissies have already heard something about this and have expressed a desire to know more. So here goes…
The week before last I attended the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA) Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Experience (SEXX) workshop in Las Vegas.
Some proportion of people I see might only see me once or twice. Perhaps they are struggling with who they are or what seeing me means, or perhaps seeing me is just a “bucket list” item. Which is all fine.
But I do like my regulars. Slaves / submissives who see me every month or two or three.
I am very interested in sex and sexuality - and I get lots of exposure and experience with my wonderful slaves, sissies and submissives. But I am also constantly looking to expand my horizons – to become more personally empowered and sexually liberated.
So I just signed up for Dr. Shelley’s week-long sacred sexuality retreat in Las Vegas, February 16th-22nd.
Tonight is New Year’s Eve – and I have a cold – and I am staying in. But that’s fine. I have been to some epic New Year’s events in the past, but am now somewhat bored with the whole thing. The events are so expensive and busy – and everybody is so excited and drunk – that the mood is frantic and unsatisfactory. Hardly quality time. And then getting to the event and back is crazy. I know this sounds jaded in the extreme but I was probably going to stay in anyway. And the sudden appearance of a cold (which might only be a 24 hour thing?) made up my mind for me.
But in any event, my New Year started early...
One of my dearest submissives has been through few quite a few changes recently – including leaving a long-term relationship. In some senses I was a catalyst for that series of changes. But once he got started he has been a whirlwind.
I seem to see quite a few people who are new to being a submissive. Perhaps they have been thinking about that for quite a while and finally take that step. And quite a few of them come back – become regulars - which seems to imply that they enjoyed themselves and have found something in themselves.
We are really into the Holiday Season now. My street is festooned with lit up trees, candy canes, little drummer boys – the full paraphernalia of the season. I have even set up a small plastic tree with ornaments.
I was following a discussion on one site about calendars – about how many dommes have calendars on their sites but do not always update them. Which kind of invalidates the whole point of having a calendar at all?
I mentioned in a recent blog how I enjoyed setting challenges for my submissives – and how it gave me a sense of controlling them outside the dungeon.
Well… A week or two ago I came across a Fetlife group called Humiliation, Tasks and Challenges For The Aspiring Submissive (And Ideas For The Dominants Who Love Them) where submissives ask for humiliating tasks to be set for them. And something about one of the posts by fuck_slut, or perhaps it was their rather fetching pictures, caught my attention.
I sometimes get asked by people whether I regard them as slaves or submissives. As it turns out that is a much debated question in the BDSM community. For example on Fetlife (which is a great source for kink discussions in general) there are literally dozens of groups where this is discussed / written about.