Quite a few of my clients are interested in anal play, usually as part of a session where other things are going on. I haven’t actually tried to determine what proportion of clients are interested, but I am happy that it does feature quite often.
As with other play interests, the simple “anal play” covers quite a wide range of play; from fingers and prostate massage, to toys, to my fucking them. Sometimes clients like to be “forced”; but often they are keen to offer themselves for our joint pleasure. While it doesn’t detract from my enjoyment, the “forced” element always intrigues me, much as it does with “forced bi” . But if being “forced” helps them explore… all well and good. As Charlie Glickman notes – who by the way is a great educator on anal sex - it’s pretty apparent that sexism, homophobia, and sex-negativity wind around each other like a braided rope and hold a lot of people back from exploring something that can bring amazing pleasure.
As an aside, while checking references for this post, I came across a couple of interesting articles. Good Vibrations has “A Recent History of Anal Sex in Society and Pop Culture” and Psychology Today notes that (heterosexual) anal play is increasingly popular .
Another thing that I notice, and it doesn’t neatly overlap with the “forced” element, is that quite a few clients are not very well prepared for anal play. In some cases they haven’t had a recent enema – which makes for a messy experience. And in others they clearly haven’t had much previous experience or self-practice at home. What that can mean is that, even with careful warm-up, they find it hard to relax, and can’t handle bigger toys or me (I am somewhat larger than average). All of which means that something that should be very pleasurable is far from that.
But fortunately, it is relatively easy to fix that. I recommend my clients to read Jack Morin’s “Anal Pleasure and Health” (it’s also on my Resources page) which provides a wonderful practical guide to the anus - one of the human body's most wondrous creations - elegant, efficient, and richly supplied with pleasure nerves. I also recommend they invest in some lube and a toy – such as the Fun Wand Metal Dildo from Good Vibrations. That has a series of bulbs from 3/4" to 1 1/8" in diameter – and I recommend they start small and work up over time, until they are at the point where they can take the 1 1/8" bulb (which is slightly smaller than me).
And next time they see me we will both have fun….!
Ms Emilie