My advertising approach has changed quite a few times over the past few years. In most cases, that hasn’t been through choice, but because of major realignments driven by law enforcement.

But now, I am taking an active decision to transition my advertising to Tryst – see

I had an ad in Backpage’s adult section since 2013. But then in early 2017, Backpage voluntarily censored its adult section. And my post disappeared. As I said at the time, they had faced years of Government bullying - lawsuits, criminal charges, economic bullying, and Congressional hearings – and won every single court case brought against them. But at some point it was just too much. So they self-censored.

At that point, I was also advertising on Eros and in the Craigslist ‘Personals’. But then in 2018, with the passage of SESTA/FOSTA, Craigslist closed its ‘Personals’ section – presumably because they were afraid of prosecutions under SESTA/FOSTA. As it happens, more than a year later, there have been zero prosecutions under SESTA/FOSTA, but the very fact that it is now law has had a chilling effect. As well as Backpage and Craigslist, most of our advertising platforms have been raided or pressured out of existence.

But a few sites survived – including Eros. But instead of supporting us, they took advantage of their newly more powerful position by substantially raising prices. And they also got increasingly aggressive about policing our content – to the point where advertising text and pictures that had been up on Eros for five years was suddenly in breach of their Publishing Standards. And then they would not tell us what was in breach and why. That is almost certainly because they are afraid that any feedback about our content could be used against them. As recent documents show, when Federal prosecutors were struggling to make a case against Backpage, they used the fact that Backpage had been trying to police illegal content as evidence that Backpage knew the site was used for prostitution. So I can understand that Eros wanted to be careful. But their approach did not protect us, and it made them increasingly difficult to work with. And then, when they raised their prices, we all started looking for somewhere else…

Which brings us to Tryst. Tryst is based in New South Wales in Australia, where sex work has been decriminalized since 1979. So they can operate safely. It is also run by sex workers, who want to provide a safe platform for other sex workers. And it is substantially cheaper than Eros. So clearly… a much more attractive proposition all round.

So… I will let my ad on Eros run for a few months, while traffic builds on Tryst. But at some point soon, I will cancel Eros – and rely on Tryst. I hope to see you all there. But I would also be very happy if my slaves let me know that they too are moving from Eros to Tryst…

Ms Emilie