I am sometimes aware of what is going on in my slaves / submissives / sissies lives – and sometimes not. I always respect their privacy. So it all depends on how much they want to share with me. But then, based on limited information, I do detect some patterns…

So based on very little, here’s my thinking…

Some slaves / submissives / sissies are in a stable situation. They might be in long-term relationships which meet most of their needs. But then they have an itch to submit or dress, which bubbles up every few months (the frequency clearly varies), and then they are compelled to see me – to scratch their itch. But then after our session, that compelling desire is reduced and they go back to their regular lives liberated and rejuvenated – until the next time round.

I have no judgements about this (or about anything I do). This is just how it works for them.

Then some other slaves / submissives / sissies are definitely not in a stable situation. They are struggling with who they are and what they want. Then the issue is whether I can help – whether I can exercise my healing powers.

One shining example is my favorite submissive Nomicon, who went from a very difficult personal situation a few years ago to being a fully out poly kinky darling. All because he was so ready to change, and he was so willing to follow instructions. Two years later, I attended his birthday dinner, where he was surrounded by kinky, poly friends. And then a few days ago, he attended my “family” Thanksgiving party with one of his kinky domme sweeties – who is lovely. I created a monster!

On the other hand, some slaves / submissives / sissies say that they want to change / to move forward – but cannot seem to find the way to do so. I think of this as being in the spin / wash cycle. Forever going round and round – stuck in a loop. I do understand the problem. I am only too aware of the stigma associated with being trans, poly, kinky – and the fear that you will be abandoned by family and friends and society. I’ve been there.

But in the end… There’s a choice. To stay stuck. Or to move forward.

In the past, I had a lot of people commenting that I was so “brave” to transition. But it didn’t feel brave to me. It just felt impossible to stay where I was.

So… I have a lot of sympathy for slaves / submissives / sissies who are stuck in in the spin / wash cycle. On the one hand, they keep coming back to see me – which is great for my income. But on the other hand, I wish they could take flight… to be who they are… even if that means I don’t get to see them so much / anymore…

Ms Emilie