Some of my slaves are very interested in chastity. So I asked one of them to Guest Blog about it – which you can read at https://fetlife.com/users/2151700/posts/7880143
But that slave also confessed to a curiousity about how their being in chastity serves me? As it happens, that wasn’t something to which I had given much thought. It just was. Just part of who I am. But now their questions have started me thinking... What is it about Chastity that speaks to me / excites me / intrigues me…?
I think the answer to that question, as much as I can answer it, refers back to a more fundamental question. Namely… What is it about being a Domme that speaks to me / excites me / intrigues me…?
I do not know whether my slaves spend much time thinking about what my life is like when they do not see me / when I am going about my “normal life”. But it might not surprise them to know that some aspects of my life are somewhat mundane. I keep up with the shopping and cleaning. I do gardening. I have a lovely close network of queer friends – some of whom are occasional or long-term lovers.
In that normal life, I am a good friend and/or lover. I am very careful about other people’s feelings. My relationships are balanced and symmetrical.
But sometimes, for me, it is lovely to be in control. To not worry so much about balance. To be a Domme. Being a Domme (for me) is all about consensual power exchange. My slaves consent to my control – for the duration of a session, or (sometimes) for longer. I am still very careful about my power. Just that we have agreed to an exchange of power that is not about balance.
And there is something about that exchange – where a slave consents to my being in control – that is sooo sexy / sooo exciting. I get very turned on by being in control.
So all of this is a long prequel to trying to answering the initial question… And the answer (I think) is that being in control of a slave’s chastity – whether that is via the honour system or them being caged – is simply an extreme version of my being in control. For me, to know that my slave has willingly given up their ability to be sexual (or at least act upon their sexual feelings) is remarkably exciting. To think of their devotion, their “suffering”, their “frustration”, is sooo sexy for me.
Right now, I have two slaves in chastity (you know who you are). I will see one next week. And I will see one on the 20th. I am enjoying their service. And I am looking forward to seeing how much “energy” they have when I see them...
Ms Emilie