Most of my sessions involve a submissive / slave who is interested in BDSM. And a strong powerful domme like me is their dream come true. But occasionally I see people who do not necessarily see themselves as submissives or slaves – who are not interested in BDSM per se.

For that second group the long list of activities on my website are not really that interesting.  However they are very interested in me. As one put it recently: “What I really am looking for is a feminine, attractive, smooth all over, intelligent and entertaining lady who I can converse with and see (Yes I am quite visually stimulated and imagine you in all your glory).” And given the right person with good references I am very happy to arrange a session that in practice is more like a paid date. 

As it happens, I’ve had a few sessions like that lately. And it can be a fun change of pace. Don’t get me wrong. I love having a well-behaved submissive / slave restrained in my dungeon – completely at my mercy. That really speaks to something in my character. And makes me very excited.

But it can also be fun to arrange something like a traditional date. To meet for drinks (mine is a fine red wine preferably with structure) in a five star hotel downtown. To get to know each other. Then retire to a plush, nicely appointed room to get to know each other better. But somehow I notice that even though the brief relationship is more symmetric, I never quite lose the sense that I am in control – I am in charge. That’s just how I am.

Ms Emilie