Tonight is New Year’s Eve – and I have a cold – and I am staying in. But that’s fine. I have been to some epic New Year’s events in the past, but am now somewhat bored with the whole thing. The events are so expensive and busy – and everybody is so excited and drunk – that the mood is frantic and unsatisfactory. Hardly quality time. And then getting to the event and back is crazy. I know this sounds jaded in the extreme but I was probably going to stay in anyway. And the sudden appearance of a cold (which might only be a 24 hour thing?) made up my mind for me.

But in any event, my New Year started early...

One of my dearest submissives has been through few quite a few changes recently – including leaving a long-term relationship. In some senses I was a catalyst for that series of changes. But once he got started he has been a whirlwind.

I seem to see quite a few people who are new to being a submissive. Perhaps they have been thinking about that for quite a while and finally take that step. And quite a few of them come back – become regulars - which seems to imply that they enjoyed themselves and have found something in themselves. 

We are really into the Holiday Season now. My street is festooned with lit up trees, candy canes, little drummer boys – the full paraphernalia of the season. I have even set up a small plastic tree with ornaments. 

I was following a discussion on one site about calendars – about how many dommes have calendars on their sites but do not always update them. Which kind of invalidates the whole point of having a calendar at all?

I mentioned in a recent blog how I enjoyed setting challenges for my submissives – and how it gave me a sense of controlling them outside the dungeon.

Well… A week or two ago I came across a Fetlife group called Humiliation, Tasks and Challenges For The Aspiring Submissive (And Ideas For The Dominants Who Love Them) where submissives ask for humiliating tasks to be set for them. And something about one of the posts by fuck_slut, or perhaps it was their rather fetching pictures, caught my attention.

I sometimes get asked by people whether I regard them as slaves or submissives. As it turns out that is a much debated question in the BDSM community. For example on Fetlife (which is a great source for kink discussions in general) there are literally dozens of groups where this is discussed / written about.

I have fallen behind with my blogging, but September was somehow very busy. There was Folsom Street Fair (of which more later) but also a whole series of sessions with out of town visitors. Maybe they were visiting for Folsom Street Fair or Oracle Open World or just one of the many conferences and conventions that happen in San Francisco, but there do seem to have been quite a few visitors this past month.

I seem to be traveling quite a bit this year?

I’ll be visiting the Palm Springs / Los Angeles area from September 8^th through September 12^th.  I'll be visiting friends and already have a few sessions pre-booked. But I could squeeze in one or two more, so contact me (msemilieoxford.com/contact) to check my availability…

I work at a few private dungeons / play spaces around the City. And most of my submissives / slaves strongly prefer to see me one-on-one in those spaces. I assume a very strong part of that preference, although I really do not ask, is that they are very much concerned with “discretion”.