I have several slaves / subs in chastity – where they are wearing chastity devices where I have the key. So they do not have access to their own pleasure without my permission. I know that some dommes do this with slaves at distance – where the slaves are in a remote location, somewhere across the country, and that they use a range of strategies / technologies to do remote key holding. But I prefer that my chastity slaves are local – so that I can physically control their access to pleasure – such that they only get out of their devices when I decide that it is appropriate.

I also have a number of slaves / subs in abstinence – where they are _not_ wearing chastity devices, but rather agree to refrain from self-pleasure for a number of days before a session. For example, I saw a delightful slut today who had been in abstinence for ten days – a record for them. They had agreed, at my request, to refrain from self-pleasure over that period, as a mark of respect and devotion to me. 

In some respects, abstinence is more interesting than chastity. When I have slaves / subs in chastity they are completely under my control – after all I have the key. But with abstinence, there is a more subtle relationship. My slave/sub has agreed to be abstinent for some period in the run up to a session, but how do I know they are really sticking to the protocol? And for example, for the session today, I had sent my slave / sub a private picture of me (one that is not on my website) prior to the start of the abstinence period, so that I would have the pleasure of knowing they were pleasuring themselves while looking at the picture – which they reported was a very pleasurable experience. But how would I know that they had not pleasured themselves, and had adhered to the terms of our agreement for the ten days prior to the session, especially when they admitted that they had looked at the picture during the abstinence period?

In the end, this is a trust relationship. I trust my slaves / subs to do what they say – which includes their being abstinent for the periods they say they will. And they trust in me – with each day that they refrain from pleasure being a day of devotion and dedication to me.

Ms Emilie