I am usually a reliable person. If I say I will do something, I will do it… Turn up on time… Remember birthdays… Whatever. But I notice that quite a high proportion of my clients are far from reliable…

When setting up a session with a new client, as well as requiring a positive provider reference, I require that we talk on the phone – which tells me a lot about how they approach things… for example, whether they sound serious and respectful. I also require that clients confirm a session by phone 24 hours beforehand. To me, such requirements seem sensible and straightforward – I would have zero issues complying. But to a very high proportion of clients, and particularly new clients, these simple requirements appear to be insurmountable. I assume that this is because they are contended. On the one hand, they are driven by a desire to submit to a powerful transsexual domme. On the other hand, as their fantasy becomes ever closer to reality, they panic and do not call. Which of course, means they have to start the whole cycle all over again – presumably with someone else?

All of that is a lead in to… When I do find clients who make phone calls when they are supposed to, and better still can follow instructions, I am soooo happy. For example, with clients that I feel a connection to (and that can mean almost anything), I like to finish a session by giving them something to take away. Perhaps a particular image (them kneeling between my spread legs?), perhaps something concrete (a pair of my used panties?), … together with instructions as to how I want them to use that. Clearly, I only do this where I am confident a client can be relied upon to follow the instructions. But where all the pre-conditions are met, it gives me a very powerful and warm feeling, to think of my client following my instructions over the next week or two after a session… To feel my power at a distance…

Ms Emilie