Am I gay?

At one point in the past, I blogged about "forced bi" - but in all honesty it seems that most slaves and/or sissies do not need to be forced.

So to be clear... I am a transsexual domme. And a very high proportion of my slaves/sissies are interested in some version of "forced bi" – where they (to be plain) want to suck my cock - sometimes for the whole session. Or they want to be fucked by me - even when they do not really have enough experience with anal sex for that.

Tax Special Revisited

I have actually finished my taxes this year – one whole week ahead of the deadline. But it still irks me very much that it is such a production here – compared to the very straightforward tax process back in the UK.


It seems that every area of professional expertise has a set of in-crowd acronyms. Back in the day, when I was in software, we had so many – even down to TLAs (three letter acronyms). And now as a pro domme, it turns out that our community has almost as many acronyms...


I recently had a potential slave asking whether I did pegging – as I do not mention that on my website.

“Pegging” is usually taken to mean a cis woman taking a submissive with a strap-on. But I am not a cis woman – I am a trans woman. And while I do have a variety of silicone dildos for various play purposes, I also have an organic cock (there… I said it) which I can use to “peg” my submissives.


There is a shift happening in the Bay Area. I have lived in San Francisco since 2000 and have always loved it here. But the City is changing – in particular the effects of gentrification, with rising rents driven by tech bros driving out the artists, queers and/or sex workers. So many people I know are now living somewhere in the East Bay. I can really feel the center of stuff shifting eastwards towards Oakland.

Eros raided

If you think about it… I am running a small independent business - connecting slaves’ fantasies to the reality of meeting me. I love what I do. And I love that I make my slaves’ fantasies come true.

Public Play

Many of my slaves are very private. I don’t know their personal situations, and I am happy not to know – that’s their business. But it does mean that they just turn up to “scratch their itch”. And that they are perfectly happy to turn up at the agreed time, to spend time one-on-one with me in my dungeon, and then just go back to their regular “vanilla” lives.

But every now and then… I have a more adventurous slave. Perhaps they are more experienced – a long term “player”. Or perhaps they are relatively new and exploring. But they are interested in going out in public – on being on display.


Being kinky in San Francisco, one of the high points of the year is Folsom. But in reality, as it has become larger and larger, it has become more and more “vanilla” – to the point where I haven’t been for a few years…

I did go to Folsom two years ago, where I had an intense and interesting time over two or three days with an ever shifting bunch of friends and slaves. But that had its issues and/or limitations – mainly because it was sooo crowded and it was sooo hard to find or be authentically kinky.